Once it starts it never ends!
TO END VIOLENT ACTS ONE MUST ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THERE BEING ABUSED NHM
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation often including threats or the use of physical violence, it is not preferential or biased it can happen to anyone, regardless of their gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, income or assumed stature.
Both woman and men can be victims of domestic violence.
It is said that men are of nearly 3 million physical assaults in the United states, and 1 in 4 woman will experience domestic violence during her lifetime or know someone who has experienced it. It is Also important to know and understand that no one is to blame for the occurrence of a domestic incident no matter what your abuser says there is nothing that warrants being assaulted and violated. More than 4 million woman have experienced a physical assault and rape by there partner, and 1 in 3 homicide victims are murdered by a current or former partner every year! (STATISTICS TAKEN FROM SAFEHORIZON.ORG)
ONCE IT STARTS IT NEVER ENDS
Some people will tell you that they would never except abuse, some appear to be strong and intolerant, the thing is appearances can fool us, sometimes the ones who appear the strongest are the ones most violently being attacked and have mastered the art of illusion.
It starts off so beautiful romantic and special, one day the wrong nerve is hit and the slander begins, that part I call the break down, the slow shredding of self esteem pride, ego and strength. You went from being beautiful to ugly, from smart to stupid, confusion sets in and sometimes if not most times love clouds your ability to make decisions. They say when in love you become one so when one begins the breakdown faze the other is left with two options leave or believe, sadly when most should leave the belief kicks in fully and staying is the common choice.
After the slander some may experience the first hit but from experience I can tell you the progression usually is slow enough that the victim is fooled to believe things aren't that bad, so usually its a shove/push maybe a pulling of the hair or pulling of the arm that is stronger than what it should be. The most dangerous abuser takes there time on the shredding part because they know it is the most successful tactic, make the victim feel like nothing so they'll except anything.
Some attackers know to leave no marks, some believe if its not a closed fist it isn't abuse, but any physical interaction that hurts is violence maybe the world cant see a bruise but one does exist! Abuse doesn't begin with bruises it begins with the robbing of self esteem, the breakdown of ones ability to rationalize. If they say I'm going to kill you You should believe it, it is those who chose to ignore the strength of that threat that are buried!
Love is not controlling, it is not obsessive, it doesn't come with ownership papers and or the right to belittle or demean! The word love has no validity if it is followed with any acts that contradicts its definition.
1 IN 3 HOMICIDE VICTIMS ARE MURDERED BY A CURRENT OR FORMER PARTNER EVERY YEAR, AND IM SURE LOVE WAS THE PLEA BUT LOVE ISNT A FIST, A SHOVE, A BLACK EYE OR A EMOTIONALLY CRUSHED HUMAN BEING, LOVE IS SELFLESS AND IF IT IS REAL IT HAS THE CAPACITY TO RELEASE YOU WHEN FOR YOU IT IS NO LONGER PRESENT. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANT OR DESERVE. SOME WILL SAY ITS EASIER SAID THAN DONE WELL I'VE BEEN THE VICTIM OF ABUSE, I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO LET SOMEONE SHRED MY SELF ESTEEM, I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE HIT AND CONTROLLED, I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE RAPED MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY THAT IS WHY I CAN TELL YOU THAT LEAVING IS BETTER THAN STAYING! YOU DESERVE TO LIVE, YOU DESERVE TO OWN YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND YOUR LIFE, YOU DON'T DESERVE THAT BLACK EYE OR THOSE BROKEN BONES, YOU DON'T DESERVE TO FEEL LIKE NOTHING BECAUSE YOU ARE SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL! DO NOT WALK DO NOT WAIT SPEAK OUT AND RUN BECAUSE THE FIST OR THE TONGUE THAT BREAK YOU DOWN DOES NOT LOVE YOU IT IS JUST THE WORDS SAID TO FURTHER CONTROL YOU UNTIL YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY DEAD! NHM AKA NADYNEZWORLD
IF YOU NEED HELP IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED CONTACT THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE AT 1-800-799-7233 0R TTY 1-800-787-3224 OR YOU CAN CONTACT SAFE HORIZON AT 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
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