YOU LOST ME By: NHM

YOU LOST ME 

BY: NHM AKA NADYNEZWORLD

The worst mistake one can make is getting complacent and arrogant in love. At one point your mate will make you feel like your the only one in the world, but if you fail to give whats necessary for emotional sustenance, one day you will wake up to nothing that use to mean something that once was everything! 

NHM 

In the beginning everything is perfect, that's usually what most people say, the routine is consistent, standards are set in place. The attention to detail is perfect, no one misses a beat. Woman will say he's perfect and men will say she's the one. 

Flowers every week, dinner done right on time, then randomly with time the flowers stop coming, dinner is ordered more than made and both parties become so different that distance feels better than closeness. It starts with small things, I'm no expert on failing relations but from experience I do know and comprehend the warning signs before the destruction. 

I call the first bad sign, the tell all.

When you first begin a relationship you make sure your on your toes, you speak about everything! Even the silly stuff that makes no sense. Nothing is off limits when the love is real, no surprises, just an open forum to speak on all topics. Through time and learning one another for whatever reason many couples become silent! They learn the flaws and hold them in higher regard than the finer qualities! What use to be cute becomes annoying, what was once fun becomes boring and imminent danger is present, but true to form us human beings get complacent and close our eyes to the flashing lights. 

Couples love to spend time together in the early stages but through time something happens that changes that I call that the I need space for me zone! Once couples get here it's pretty bad, they constantly need breaks to hang with the ladies and the fellas, sooner than they realize every free moment becomes dedicated to others and not the two people together. This is also a very dangerous place to be! Too much space invites others in. Imperfection is a plague and bad choices can be made that one can never turn back from, so it's very important that if you are currently in this stage make the necessary changes and adjustments to shorten the space! 

Now were getting to the place where most couples either lose there ability to readjust or they wake up and make things right. Sadly statistically marriage is so under appreciated in today's society! You receive more homage from being the secret or the side! It is the individual who must muster up the gumption to decide exactly what they expect and demand from there partner. If you read the previous paragraphs you'd understand, that may present a challenge because we've now decreased from the tell all stage and the break zone makes two people strangers. So it takes relentless effort from both parties. 

 The worst stage to return too at this point is the tell all stage! Bitterness animosity and resentment are in heavy rotation and the words we say at this point are usually unfavorable. Men go from sweet words to painful daggers in the heart, and woman disconnect completely making the man feel so irrelevant that they become enemies rather then those two love birds from once upon a time. I love you's are few are far between and the hurtful words become so dominant you almost forget love ever existed! 

This part is the saddest, because what once was beautiful becomes so dark and empty! This part is the one where chances to reconcile are nearly impossible, it also is the part when both parties decide is it worth it to continue. Sadly you find that one party realizes the damage they've done and wants to fix it but some wounds run so deep reconciliation is out of the question! It sounds brutal but I truly believe that two individuals who do this much damage to one another's hearts at some point must except that maybe this wasn't there time, or person! That may hurt and feel horrible but truly ask yourself, what person wants to be where love no longer exist to its full capacity! Honesty is the key, I myself have failed in that department in my past and the pain it causes is horrible and no one no matter what they do deserves to have there heart broken! Even if they've broken yours 1000 times over! Two wrongs don't make a right and the only statement made is that two people failed at the most precious gift were given which is love! I used the title you lost me not to represent me personally but to represent the emptiness of a heart that has been damaged to capacity. 

It's crucial to appreciate those who love and care for you, not for material gain just because there easy to love! See people for what they are and what they represent, also peer into the deepest parts of yourself and decide are you a good person or not! Mistakes just happen, choices to do wrong that's just idiocy and lack of humility from you! Make sure the heart you break is truly not the one you want because I am the firmest believer that amazing love only happens once! DON'T TAKE YOUR CHANCE FOR GRANTED! NHM 

AS ALWAYS LITERALLY AND INTELLECTUALLY 

NHM AKA NADYNEZWORLD 

@NHMBLOGGER